You check Instagram, talk to friends, read a parenting book, and suddenly feel like everyone else has it together. Meanwhile, your child just threw a tantrum over toast. Again. If you’ve ever whispered to yourself, “I’m not doing this right,” you’re not alone.
Parenting experts like Brené Brown say perfectionism doesn’t connect; authenticity does. In this post, we’ll explore why your kids don’t need perfection. They need you, showing up with honesty and heart, which is also what our stories at Sochu Books aim to reflect.
Why Do Parents Feel the Pressure to Be Perfect?
Because we confuse performance with parenting.
In a world of highlight reels and unsolicited advice, it’s easy to believe that being a “good parent” means never messing up. But kids don’t remember our filtered moments; they remember feeling seen, soothed, and safe.
Perfectionism stems from fear, not love
Real parenting happens in the mess, not the script
That’s why Sochu’s picture books for Indian kids don’t showcase flawless characters; they show emotional mistakes, repairs, and growth.
What Happens When You Try to Be Perfect?
It creates distance instead of trust.
Children don’t learn connection from a perfect role model. They learn it when they see how we handle imperfection through repair, honesty, and trying again.
Next time you lose your cool:
Acknowledge: “That didn’t come out how I wanted.”
Reconnect: “I’m sorry. Let’s try again.”
📘 These moments are modeled in Sochu Books, making them ideal books that teach empathy to kids and tools for conscious parenting.
What Do Kids Really Need Instead?
They need presence, not perfection.
Your child isn’t watching to see if you got it “right.” They’re learning how to be human by watching how you try again.
Instead of:
“I should’ve handled that better…” Try:
"Next time, I want to stay calmer. Will you help me remember?”
These are the seeds of emotional intelligence, and Sochu’s stories help nurture them.
How Can You Let Go of the Pressure Today?
Choose real over right. Start with one flaw you stop hiding.
What if you admitted that some mornings you lose it? What if you let your child see you pause, breathe, and try again?
🌱 That is what teaches resilience, not flawless execution.
You Don’t Need to Be a Perfect Parent, Just a Present One
Perfectionism is a heavy mask. Your child doesn’t need it. What they need is your honesty, your repair, and your care. Every story in Sochu Books is written with this in mind: to help children and parents grow through imperfection together.
So next time you feel like a failure, try curiosity. Compassion. Connection.
👉 What’s one “flaw” you can stop hiding and show up real with today? Let it start the story of trust.